What Really Matters to Men by Tripp
I asked a bunch of my friends a question:
If you had the attention of all married women, what would you say?
Here are the answers I got:
- Initiating anything sexual = you love me and want me to be happy
- Why is it harder for you guys to be friends with each other?
- We don’t love the flowy shirts.
- High waisted bikini bottoms are bad for all body types
- No, I don’t have feelings
- It’s not fair to guilt us into going to the store with you and then get pissed at us for not having the time of our lives following you while you wander aimlessly through target.
- “Oh God” isn’t the response we had in mind when we stepped into the shower with you.
- Let’s take it easy with the gender reveals.
- If your husband is upset about a sporting event please don’t say “it’s just a game”. It’s not just a game.
- It’s a little depressing to have an entire drawer dedicated to lingerie that has been worn once or maybe never at all. Maybe donate it.
What do you think of these answers?
For me, this list confirms my suspicion that men (my friends at least) only care about one thing:
All of these answers came from guys I know really well. They are all great men who love their wives. I would even venture to say most of them are model husbands. I have to assume there is at least one dud in the mix who secretly sucks at appreciating his spouse, but for the most part these are the good guys; the ones you’d want your daughters to date.
But asking them a question like this on a text thread without giving any context was exactly the same as asking them “what’s the funniest thing you can think to tell married women”. Even though the actual question explicitly states all married women as the intended recipient of our answers, we all knew our real audience was each other.
So women who read blogs, if I was to leave you with one serious and helpful piece of advice it would be this.
Be a student of your husband’s sense of humor.
I promise this will pay back ten fold. When you laugh at our jokes it strokes our ego. And stroking our ego is like…nevermind. The point is, what we want more than anything from our significant others is really just to know that you are impressed. Laughing at our jokes is a great way to show it.
The reason my advice wasn’t just “laugh at our jokes” is because we don’t want you to pretend we are funny (unless you’re really good at it and we don’t notice). What we want is for you to actually get why the thing we thought was funny is funny. Because getting our sense of humor is getting us. Laughing with us is like saying “yep I see the world this way too”. And who doesn’t want more of that?
Guest post by Tripp Crosby