Stuff You Should Know
Somewhere between being a kid and trying to become an adult I got a little too serious. A lot of it probably had to do with things I was going through that I didn’t know how to deal with or communicate. You probably have some of those things yourself. I’m not sure, but my guess would be that this looks very different for everyone. For me, I became a very serious person through that “stuff.”
Tripp and I started dating 4 years ago in the fall. We dated for a total of 3 years (and two months) before we got engaged. I was 23 when it all began and Tripp was 31. To all of you southerners that probably seems a little crazy and to all of our west coast friends it seems kind of fast. Anyway, this is our story, and I am so in love with it.
Sometimes, most of the time, I’m really shocked that Tripp stuck around. I was a tough girl who wanted to be Ms. Independent and rolled my eyes at him when he was being funny. Maybe that’s why he stayed. Tripp’s goal in life is to make people laugh. It’s one of my favorite things about him. It’s also something I realized I don’t do a lot, laugh.
Another thing that I realized I don’t do a lot is cry. Well, not in front of people. A couple of years ago my family and Tripp’s family went to see Les Miserables. My dad and Tripp were boo hooing and I was stuck in between them feeling pretty awkward.
Through all this “doing life with someone else” I’m learning so much about myself. I have a vulnerability issue that I know I need to work on. There will be a lot of future posts on that because it’s going to be a big part of my life for the next couple of years.
Back to the point of this post…
4 years ago Tripp slowly started breaking down the bricks that built my seriousness. He has opened me up to a level of joy that I didn’t know how to experience. In rare occurrences he actually gets me to laugh at myself when I’m embarrassed. He brings a lot to the table in our marriage but his ability to insert laughter is something I never knew I needed and now I cannot survive without.
With all that to say, Tripp and Tyler wrote a book. It’s funny. I know if you are a serious person like me you probably don’t want to waste your time reading something so trivial but trust me, you need to. Oh, and, Joy is not trivial.
AND if you are a serious person and you are dealing with this same sort of thing, lets go through this together. I think we can help each other. Also, I think Tripp probably needs a break sometimes. I’ll even buy you their new book.